Musings of a Singleton on Valentine’s Day

During the weeks leading up to Valentine’s Day I kept forgetting it was coming up, and even on Thursday I kept forgetting it was Valentine’s Day. The women in the community got all dressed up for the day, made dinner together and snuggled up to watch The Incredibles. (We all decided it was best not to watch an overtly romantic movie). All in all it was just what we needed.

Disclaimer: I don’t know if anyone will care about what I am about to share, but I just wanted to “put it on paper” for at least myself, and hopefully one or two other people might find this enlightening.

My roommate helped me discover something really interesting about my prayer life. Some people relate to God as father, brother, or friend, but I relate best to him as lover. I feel that my biggest struggle with placing things before God is desiring a relationship with a man more than I desire one with God.

I have such a soft spot for love songs, but especially R&B love songs. They just get right to the core of one’s desires and thoughts and feelings about love and they don’t mince words. It’s “Imma tell you exactly how I feel about you to the whole world.” Amen, Beyonce, you do that. (PS. Blog post on her to come). Lately, as I am consciously trying to look to God in times of longing for love, the best way I can do that is sing/listen to love songs, imagining God is the speaker. Have I lost you yet? Just see what I mean…

God says: You should let me love you, let me be the one to give you everything you want and need. Good love and protection, make me your selection, I’ll show you the way love is supposed to be. You should let me love you. You deserve better, girl. You know you deserve better. Your true beauty’s description looks so good that it hurts. You’re a dime plus ninety-nine and it’s a shame, you don’t even know what you’re worth.

God says: These fists will always protect you. Let my love adorn you. And this mind will never neglect you. The same way that the stars adorn the skies. Gotta let my love adorn you.

And what if this was our song to the Lord?
It’ll take at least a million years
To give you everything that you give to me
I can’t see me without you

I wear my heart on my sleeve and I don’t care who sees
I just wanna give you love
Through the storm, through the rain
You can take everything cause it don’t mean a thing
If I don’t have your love
you are the one thing I can’t lose
I’m nothing without you

You make me wanna be a better (wo)man
Everyday I get up and go to work for you
I just wanna please you
Flowers, cotton candy, diamond rings, shopping sprees
Will never add up to the love you give to me

Plus the beats are bangin’. Do you have any favorite songs that help you relate to God?



  1. Claire Cleyonce Leiter · February 19, 2013

    I won’t give up. Jason Mraz (GOD in this case)

    When I look into your eyes
    It’s like watching the night sky
    Or a beautiful sunrise
    Well, there’s so much they hold
    And just like them old stars
    I see that you’ve come so far
    To be right where you are
    How old is your soul?

    Well, I won’t give up on us
    Even if the skies get rough
    I’m giving you all my love
    I’m still looking up

    And when you’re needing your space
    To do some navigating
    I’ll be here patiently waiting
    To see what you find

    ‘Cause even the stars they burn
    Some even fall to the earth
    We’ve got a lot to learn
    God knows we’re worth it
    No, I won’t give up


  2. Stephanie · February 19, 2013

    I loved reading this! The more I’ve learned about the Theology of the Body in the last few years, the more I’ve noticed this same thing as you; that there are so many songs about earthly love that point to our ache for the divine. “In Your Eyes” by Peter Gabriel is my absolute favorite in this little category! I wrote a little about it here:


  3. Lisa · February 19, 2013

    During a retreat in HS the women who ran it played a slide show w/ images of Christ (mainly from movies) and played Celine Dion’s song “Because You Loved Me”. It was really powerful, and I had never been a huge fan of the song, but every time I hear it played now it makes me think of God’s love.


  4. Emily · February 19, 2013

    This brought a smile to my face. God is so good!


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